Wherever you are on your journey, you can ask a guide to bear witness as you move into unknown territory. At times, the guide will appear externally, at other times as a figure of the inner landscape. The interactional field is alive with meaning and intelligence, filled with resources for tending to the soul.
Find a therapist, lover, mentor, or friend. Shade under a tree, solace in the forest, an animal companion to stay near as you open. Sink into the earth, expand into the sky, receive the lunar blessing above. Call upon the protectors of inner and outer nature.
Allow the activated feelings and raw sensations to merge into these ones and enter into dialogue. Share the burning, the aliveness, and the longing within you. Offer a home in which the great metabolization by love may unfold.
Move toward the material as it surges for integration, practice intimacy without fusion. Closeness without enmeshment. Stay in the fire for a few seconds, then rest in the cooling rains of loving kindness. Return at a later moment, and then rest again.
Self-regulation, co-regulation, and other-regulation merge into one flow of curiosity, attunement, and compassion. It is unlikely we’ll ever fully understand or resolve the secrets of self and other, separation and union, yin and yang, sun and moon. But we can break open into the mystery together, as beginners, as amateurs, and as servants of that aliveness.
My next two events:
The Great Befriending: A Five-Day Journey of Self-Love, Deep Rest, and Coming Alive (with Jeff Foster), September 21-26 in Loveland, Colorado