The reawakening of feeling

Most of us have one or two feeling states we will do just about anything not to feel. It might be an emptiness, a particular kind of shame, heartbreak, a sense of abandonment, or the feeling that we do not belong.

It could be deep rage or deep grief. Without realizing it, we spend much of our lives organizing around not feeling these places.

Our behaviors, coping strategies, relationships, work, spiritual practices, and even our identities quietly arrange themselves in service of avoiding contact with an old, lost, orphaned place within us.

As we deepen on our path—through reflection, therapy, meditation, or simply the lived experiences of relationship and loss—we may begin to sense this place more clearly.

It often appears in quiet moments, in dreams, during a walk in nature, after an argument with someone we love, or in the ache of not being seen or met in the way we long for.

Alongside its appearance comes a deep, primordial fear: if I truly meet this place, I will die. I will not survive the encounter.

There is a certain truth in this fear. Something does die. But it is precisely in turning toward this place, rather than continuing to organize our lives around avoiding it, that the water of life is found.

It is here that aliveness, connection, meaning, and purpose begin to return. The lost orphan within us was never here to harm us or to take us down. It has only ever been waiting for us—waiting to be felt, to be lived, and to share its wisdom, its fear, its love, its beauty, its mercy, and its grace.

Matt's new 2026 spirituality and healing group to open in February

Dear friends, 

In a world that moves so quickly — where overwhelm, disconnection, and emotional exhaustion have become almost normal — many of us sense a longing to slow down, turn inward, and remember what is most essential.

We want a place where our inner life is welcomed. Where our sensitivity, our feelings and emotions, and our relational life are all not obstacles to our path, but doorways to it. Where our grief, confusion, longing, and creativity can be held with tenderness and respect.

Yet there are few spaces where psychological depth, somatic wisdom, and contemplative spirituality truly meet.

Therapy is often too limited for the full terrain of the soul, too cost-prohibitive, or we aren’t able to find the right practitioner. Spiritual circles can drift into bypassing, abstraction, or disembodiment. And many of us are left wondering where to bring the parts of ourselves that are still hurting, still waking, still becoming.

This is why I created The Mystery School — a living, yearlong holding environment where we gather as fellow travelers, committing to a path of healing, inner transformation, and embodied awakening.

What the Mystery School Is

The Mystery School is a sanctuary. A container. A rhythm and a home.

It is a yearlong immersion into deep psychological and spiritual work — held within a trauma-informed, somatically grounded, relational field of practice.

It’s not a “course” in the ordinary sense where you’re asked to accumulate more concepts or information. Nor is it a place to take on yet another (unending) project of self-improvement.

Instead, it is:

• a space to return to yourself, month after month
• a community of sensitive, sincere fellow travelers
• a vessel for healing old patterns and awakening new possibilities
• a place where emotion, imagination, and embodiment are honored as sacred teachers
• a modern reimagining of the ancient mystery schools — not in form, but in spirit

Throughout the year, we weave together:

• relational and depth psychologies
• somatic and trauma-informed practices
• contemplative and devotional spirituality
• shadow integration
• imaginal and archetypal exploration
• embodied meditation and inner inquiry

The Mystery School is ultimately a living field — warm, grounded, spiritually alive — where you can explore, unfold, and heal in your own time, within a safe and attuned community. It offers a consistent rhythm — a place you can return to week after week, where your inner life is welcomed and held. It is a refuge from the speed of the world and an invitation to unfold at a human pace.

To learn more, please visit the group page below. I'd love to have you join us and make this journey together. 

>>Learn more about Matt's new 2026 group and community

I'll also be presenting two free live gatherings, on Thursday, January 29, and Saturday, January 31, which you're welcome to attend. Thursday's gathering is entitled, From Overwhelm to Inner Aliveness: Three Gateways to Embodied Healing. 

On Saturday, we'll talk specifically about the new 2026 group and community, and I'll answer any questions you might have if you're curious about joining us. 

Live online gathering with Matt - January 29

Dear friends, 

I’m looking forward to connecting with everyone on Thursday, January 29, for a live online gathering.

During our time together, we’ll slow down, rest our nervous systems, and explore some of the deeper mysteries of healing in a shared relational field.

You can learn more and register here:
https://mattlicataphd.com/from-overwhelm-to-inner-aliveness/