Stay right here

At times, our reference points will fall away, revealing a shimmering, pregnant, endarkened void. What we were so clear about just days ago is nowhere to be found. The relationship we thought would be there forever, the creativity in our work, inspiration in our spiritual lives, our deepest insights and realizations – recycled in the activity of the vast.

The solid ground we once took refuge in has disintegrated underneath us, sending us into unknown territory. We were so sure we were beyond breaking yet again, but the activity of love is not oriented in the maintenance of the status quo. It is the nature of all form to dissolve, by way of the alchemical yellowing, so that new forms may emerge.

It can seem that we are falling apart, but were we ever together to begin with? Is that even the right lens from which to approach the mystery? Or were we always something more majestic than all that, so whole that even “brokenness” can be held inside?

The invitation as always is to slow way down. Breathe deeply from your lower belly. Feel your feet in the mud of the earth. Allow her to hold you.

For just this moment, set aside the need to understand, to figure it all out, or to replace this moment with another. Today may not be the day for answers, but to let your heart break open to the vastness of the question.

Look up into the new winter sky.

Something is longing to emerge, in you, as you, as the poetry of your life and as the gifts you will share with others. Lay your hands on your heart. Listen. Receive.

There are blues coming into existence that have never made their way into this dimension. Oranges, reds, yellows, and not-yet-known colors that have been sent to remind you of the rarity and outrageousness of one human heart.

Stay right here.

Don’t move from this moment. Open your senses. Step into the mystery. See through the veil. Everything that has ever happened and everyone you have ever met, has led up to right here and right now.

Trust in the fires of disintegration and renewal, and in the sacred timeline that is written within you.

Photo by Mitch Kesler

My new book - A Healing Space: Befriending Ourselves in Difficult Times 

My previous book - The Path is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You

My upcoming online course on Resting Your Nervous System: Embodying a Trauma-Sensitive Spirituality and Discovering a Felt Sense of Safety, starting March 1st, 20202 - Befriending Yourself: Finding Safety and Rest in Difficult Times

Listen to two recent podcasts where I was interviewed:

with Tami Simon of Sounds True on Insights at the Edge

with David Newell of the Inner Truth podcast 

Free webinar with Matt Licata on Tuesday

Dear friends, 

I'll be offering a free webinar this Tuesday, February 23rd at 11am PT/ 7pm in London. 

<<Register at no cost for "An Invitation to Rest Your Nervous System" free webinar

When you register you'll also receive instant access to a free mini eBook on the same topic. 

The webinar will also serve as an introduction to my new online course which starts in March - Resting Your Nervous System: Embodying a Trauma-Sensitive Spirituality and Discovering a Felt Sense of Safety.

As part of the webinar and eBook, I'll speak about:

• The importance of resting the nervous system, especially in times of transition, uncertainty, and stress
• How the experience of trauma is wired in to being an open, sensitive human being on the planet at this time
• How any integral approach to our spiritual lives must include awareness of and sensitivity to trauma and relational wounding
• How the felt sense of safety is the foundation for psychological growth, emotional healing, and spiritual transformation
• The essential role of the body in healing, especially in times of overwhelm and stress
• How the path of direct revelation unfolds by way of the human body.

I look forward to seeing you on Tuesday if you're able to make it live. If you register, you'll receive a link to watch a replay of the video as well, and also the free mini eBook. 

Please take care of yourselves. 

Warmly,

Matt

The temple of relationship

In any close relationship (where we take the risk of allowing another to matter) we open ourselves to the two primary archetypal energies of abandonment and fusion. At a deep level there may always be some hesitancy in stepping all the way in, which is valid and worthy of our exploration.

We come into relationship with a living template of past relational experiences – will I be safe? Can I be fully as I am? What about all of my eccentricities, sensitivities, and essence-vulnerabilities? Will I need to become different in order to be held and known? Will I lose myself? Is this all going to be worth it?

Inevitably, ruptures will occur within the relational field, in that tender intersection between ourselves and another. But these ruptures are natural, organic, and quantum, and portals of wholeness and integration.

A healthy relationship is not one in which there is never any conflict, but one in which rupture is repaired. Through our shared, holy resonance circuitry and by way of right-brain attunement, we honor our connectedness as well as our own autonomy and integrity which, too, is sacred. The invitation is into the aliveness of paradox and contradiction, not unconscious merging into some homogenized leaky middle.

Embodiment to the cycle of rupture and repair is what allows the relationship to unfold, deepen, and disclose its secret essence.

Each of us arrives in the emerging we-space with biographical, cultural, and archetypal patterning, schemas, and implicit worlds of meaning and imagination. These intertwine to weave the interactional field, along with the companionship, play, and shepherding of the mysterious Other, the third who also appears.

Through co-illumination, co-articulation, and making sense of our experience together the templates reveal their transparency and become ripe for revisioning. But in the core of that ripening it is tender and sensitive, and will ask everything of us.

This is why, in part, close personal relationships can be so achingly painful, on the one hand… while simultaneously being the most majestic and transmutative temple on the other.

Photo by Valiphotos

My new book - A Healing Space: Befriending Ourselves in Difficult Times 

My previous book - The Path is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You

My upcoming online course on Resting Your Nervous System: Embodying a Trauma-Sensitive Spirituality and Discovering a Felt Sense of Safety, starting March 1st, 20202 - Befriending Yourself: Finding Safety and Rest in Difficult Times

Listen to two recent podcasts where I was interviewed:

with Tami Simon of Sounds True on Insights at the Edge

with David Newell of the Inner Truth podcast