The next time you notice that you’re attacking yourself,
caught in a looping storyline about how you’ve failed, how you’ll never get it
right, how there is something just fundamentally wrong with you …
When you’ve become lost in a repetitive narrative about how
someone has misunderstood you, how you are not being seen in the way you’d
like, or when find yourself complaining about your life or another person …
Just stop.
Before you abandon yourself and leave your immediate
experience, parachuting into the unstable waters of rumination, shame, and
blame, slow way down. For this is no ordinary moment. You are being asked to
care for yourself in a new way, to cleanse your perception with space, with
kindness, with compassion – to pause and to encode a new pathway.
With the ally of the breath, shift your awareness out of
the overwhelming narrative, for it is no longer safe there. It is not serving
you to travel down the conditioned rabbit hole of unworthiness and
self-abandonment any longer. These are the leftover grooves of an earlier time,
and ache to be reorganized by way of empathy, attunement, and embodied
presence.
Conserve your precious life energy, remove it from that
which is no longer working in your best interest, and direct into your belly,
your heart, your throat. And ask: what feeling is wanting to be met now? In
what way am I being asked to care for the vulnerable, the tender, and the shaky
within me, to no longer project it outward in the movement of self-abandonment
and self-aggression? How am I being asked to tend to myself in a new way? To
touch the erupting, raw, achy life that is surging now for holding.
Look carefully, with curiosity, patience, kindness, and
compassion and see the ways you leave the embodied world of pure feeling,
bailing on your vulnerability as you escape back into the conditioned narrative
of complaint, resentment, shame, blame, and self-attack. Return home.
While it may seem you are longing for something outside
you, in these moments you are only longing for your own presence. For you need
yourself now more than ever. This world needs you now more than ever.
My new book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is now available
The next event, The Magic of Being Fully Human, to be held in Ojai, CA on October 14-15.
