Thursday, July 31, 2014

The movement of love is that of a sacred thief

The movement of love is that of a sacred thief, come to remove your clothing and your concepts, and to burn away everything that is false and less than whole within you.

And when it is done all that will be left is a raging firestorm of creativity, sensuality, openness, and warmth.

For this is what you are.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Love is the only true medicine

Healers, therapists, friends, and lovers!

When you sit with a friend in pain,
when their world no longer makes sense;
when confusion rages and
no rest is to be found.

Just for a moment,
will you resist the temptation
to make things better,
to reassure them,
to provide answers,
even to heal them?

Will you offer your stillness, your listening,
your presence, and the warmth
of your immediacy? 

Will you hold them in your heart,
with the same tenderness
of a mother holding her little one?

Will you embrace them where they are,
without needing them to change or transform
according to your own needs and schedule? 

Will you stay close,
holding your own impatience
and discomfort near?
Will you look into their eyes
and see yourself?

Will you stay in the inferno of healing
with them, trusting in disintegration,
knowing that you are only witnessing
the falling away of an old dream?

Sometimes in doing nothing
everything is undone,
and love is revealed to be
the only true medicine.

- Jeff Foster and Matt Licata

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

The playground of love

When we allow ourselves to enter luminously into the embodied, subjective experience of another—without the projection of burden that they change, heal, shift, or transform—and when they feel us with them inside of the cracks and crevices of each and every cell of their heart—love takes over, the great natural perfection begins to whisper its secrets, and we turn toward home, together.

The journey of lover and beloved in this world of time and space will never conform to our hopes, fears, dreams, and fantasies, for it is emerging out of the unknown, drenched in particles of creativity and soaked in the mysteries of form as it drips out of the stars and into this world.

As we watch in astonishment as to how love wishes to make use of this grace body and these miracle senses, we behold the unseen activity of the beloved, and the sweet and fierce grace that are her envoys here. We are in awe as we realize that this life is not a project to be solved, not some mistake which must be corrected by process, but is the playground of love itself.

As we remember that ancient vow we have taken to give our lives to love and to hearts everywhere, we find ourselves no longer concerned with some mythical ijourney from "here to there," but crumbled to the ground in gratitude and holy bewilderment at how love will do anything to infuse the relative with its light. 

Sunday, July 27, 2014

Inside the core of the relational matrix

As you step into the fires of transformation and the burning crucible that is intimacy and the purifying relational field, you will inevitably come face to face with all of the ways you're holding on to fixed ideas of yourself, others, life, and love. As you're seeing, it is unlikely you'll ever be able to create a life that is this tender and potentially transmutative in which you will always experience feelings of safety, belonging, and invulnerability - for the path of the heart, in my experience, was never designed to offer these. This is not to say that you should not make requests of your fellow travelers, share your preferences, your deepest feelings, and ways you've been hurt. But rather to always remain vigilant to the reality that the freedom and love you so sweetly long for will only ever arise in the unconditional commitment to taking complete experiential responsibility for your own somatic-emotional world.

Feelings of disappointment, despair, hopelessness, and heartbreak are very natural and to be expected as a natural part of this journey. These are not "mistakes," "problems," or "obstacles" to the embodied path of the heart, but the very essence of it. Seen from eyes wide open, they are luminous invitations from the beloved, calling you into her wisdom mandala. Right in the core of the relational matrix that is arising here and now is pure love itself, and a direct portal into the heart field of the beloved. Staying with the very difficult and disturbing feelings that arise in the context of working with this material is the essence of the journey and is not easy. It may always require that you wade into the survival level panic and anxiety which certain feelings and emotions have come to be associated with, depending on the specific configurations of your early environment, attachment histories, and unfolding karma.

In my experience, it is helpful to allow in the possibility that all of the various "issues" in your life may *never* be resolved on a feeling level as you will likely always have contradictory feelings about that which matters most to you. One of the most loving, kind, and wise responses to this very alive truth is to be willing to remove the burden from others to resolve your experience and to metabolize it for you. For this is not possible. As you become more aware of the ways you have created and are maintaining this burden, you can start to see how unkind it is, to yourself and others, and how aggressive it actually is to your one, precious heart and somatic brilliance, to project this burden into the environment around you. And you can come to see that it is through staying profoundly embodied to your arising experience, and bringing kindness to it - over and over and over again – that is the ground of freedom and love in action.

It is also very important, in my experience, to recognize that part of you that truly wishes to heal, to open all the way to love, and to take the risk that you sense that such opening will demand – and to honor and hold this part. However, to also allow yourselves to become aware of another part of you that will always unconsciously be serving a distractive or avoidant function, to protect you from what true healing requires – the immediate and direct entering into *every* feeling, emotion, and sensation you've spent your entire life working to avoid. You can hold these two movements inside the center, without any need for resolution, without any judgment of one and attachment to the other. For it is in this middle place where the beloved is alive and seeding this world with grace. These movements are co-emergent expressions of natural wisdom and will untangle and dance together in the light of pure awareness and holding.

I wish you all well on the journey and ask that you please be kind to yourself and your fellow travelers – for the path of love will always demand everything from you – and much, much more. But in your unconditional commitment to meet whatever arises with kindness and loving attention, you will receive fruit from this and the other worlds - and a life beyond your wildest imagination.

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Psychotherapy and Individual/ Group Sessions

Dear friends, thank you for your kind notes over the last few weeks and for sharing your journeys with me in such an open-hearted and vulnerable way. I have been out of the country and away from my computer and have not been able to keep up with all your loving correspondence, but will continue to read through it and stay as close as I'm able.

Starting in September, I'm going to be opening my psychotherapy and spiritual counseling/ direction practice, which I've not been able to do for quite some time, for new clients – for both in-person sessions at my offices in Boulder as well as via Skype. If interested, please write to with a bit of information about what you're looking to explore/ work with and any questions you might have.

A reminder of my upcoming meetings with Jeff Foster, on August 2nd and 3rd in Boulder. Both events are very close to selling out and unfortunately we'll not be able to add any extra seats. Learn more about Presence: The Ultimate Medicine and Falling in Love with Where You Are. Both Jeff and I are looking forward to seeing many of you soon!

Sending my love...