Sunday, July 15, 2018

Loneliness and aloneness


Despite our connection with others, we are all asked to travel alone. No one can experience life for us, know what it is like to feel scared or touched or excited for us, breathe for us, or enter into the mystery on our behalf.

The whole and broken yogi is at home in this type of aloneness, which burns with the richness of the emotional spectrum, their experience colored by a certain sadness. Not the sadness that something is missing but that it is so full that it aches for this life.

We know that at any moment our hearts might break, we may fall in love in the most excruciating way, the rug is sure to be pulled out from underneath us, and we’ll be asked to meet deep waves feeling. Somehow we have no choice but to enter into the core of mercy and grief, suffering and joy, and darkness and light.

“Loneliness,” on the other hand, is usually born out of a resistance to present embodied experience, a subtle turning from shame, fear, sadness, and rage. When we are not able to provide a home for these ones, we join them in their orphaned state and feel cut off from life, lonely, and disconnected.

In a moment of surging, these ones need not be healed, but held and allowed back home. To abandon and send them away creates the foundation for the experience of loneliness, where we fall out of touch with the grace and wisdom-field of the inner world.

It is so fragile here, this nervous system, these mirror neurons, this sensitivity. Perhaps it is a unique configuration found only in this star. Let us re-open the temple of the heart and provide sanctuary for the inner travelers, that they may reveal the path out of loneliness and into aloneness, which we will walk together with all beings everywhere.




My latest book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is now available 





My next two events: 

The Great Befriending: A Five-Day Journey of Self-Love, Deep Rest, and Coming Alive (with Jeff Foster), September 21-26 in Loveland, Colorado 

Stay tuned for details regarding a five-day winter retreat January 23-28 at Sunrise Ranch in Loveland, Colorado

Wednesday, July 11, 2018

The breaking of the heart


In those moments when our heart breaks in response to the world, the temptation can be overwhelming to put it back together again. But if we will ask the heart if it wishes to be mended, it will take us into the mystery.

“In trying to ‘heal’ me you remain too far away,” the heart pleads with us. “I want you all the way inside, to bear witness to the broken shards of my being, to stay close as I ache, to hold me. Please don’t turn. Not this time.”

Behind the scenes, love is at work, the beloved spinning out worlds of experience, longing to know itself through form, finding illumined passage through the cells of these hearts.

Each time we listen carefully to another, feel their feelings and attune to their tenderness, hug them hold them, speak kind words, offer a soothed nervous system where by way of miracle mirror neurons they down-regulate and rest… together we break more, burn more, and somehow become more whole.




My latest book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is now available 




My next two events: 

The Great Befriending: A Five-Day Journey of Self-Love, Deep Rest, and Coming Alive (with Jeff Foster), September 21-26 in Loveland, Colorado 

Stay tuned for details regarding a five-day winter retreat January 23-28 at Sunrise Ranch in Loveland, Colorado

Tuesday, July 10, 2018

Blue glow


Watching the light play hide and seek in the forest today, the green brown purple moss illumined from within. Everything so fresh and spontaneous, colorful forms crafted of particles of awareness.

Blue glow and alive trees and birdsong that I’m sure has never made it into this realm before this very moment. Here we are now together.

Shaky, tender, and achy, but how to tell if it’s happening inside me or without? Inside this heart or on the outside or both or neither or by way of the Great Heart that has weaved the entire display…

In one way everything seems slightly pink or golden red, as if it were all coming and going inside a blooming rose… the mercy of that, to be given that vision. 




My latest book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is now available 




My next two events: 

The Great Befriending: A Five-Day Journey of Self-Love, Deep Rest, and Coming Alive (with Jeff Foster), September 21-26 in Loveland, Colorado 

Stay tuned for details regarding a five-day winter retreat January 23-28 at Sunrise Ranch in Loveland, Colorado