Tuesday, June 12, 2018

If we will allow it


We are relational beings with open, sensitive, vulnerable hearts and mirror neurons and can offer one another so much. To listen to one another and attune deeply to what our sisters and brothers are feeling and how they are making meaning of their experience.

To not shame the story they are telling or the ways they have come to imagine themselves and the world but to hold it in a spacious, compassionate, merciful awareness. To allow it to touch us as we embrace the unknown together.

To truly allow the other to matter, to remember what is most important, to be held by the oceans and the trees, to fall to the ground in awe as the sun yields so that the moon and the stars may make their offerings once again.

In the busyness of the inner and outer worlds, we can so easily forget the miracle that is unfolding here moment by moment.

The rarity and preciousness of the whole thing, being broken and whole together, never quite knowing how love will shift shapes and take form, even during difficult times. It can take our breath away. If we will allow it.



My latest book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is now available 


My next two events: 

The Path is Everywhere: A Weekend Intensive, June 15-18 in Loveland, Colorado

The Great Befriending: A Five-Day Journey of Self-Love, Deep Rest, and Coming Alive (with Jeff Foster), September 21-26 in Loveland, Colorado 

Monday, June 11, 2018

To infuse the material with love


It really is a conundrum, this being human: we want to heal but we don’t want to be too vulnerable, take too much risk, or provide a home for that shaky, tender, unguarded life that is sure to be there to meet us at the threshold.

Yes, there may be some excitement about the whole thing, imaginations of a life beyond conditioning. But another part of us senses what true healing actually requires, which is the end of the world as we have come to know it.

Rather than move to resolve the conundrum by way of process and time, the invitation is directly into its core, which is where we will find the water of life. The contradiction is holy, alive, and an expression of luminosity. Here, the beloved is not separate from the conundrum but is taking form as its very essence. In fact, it is His or Her actual body.

This entire display has been placed inside us as a gift and benediction, the prima materia we have been given to work with in our lives, that exact material that has come into the vessel for us to tend to and heat with breath, curiosity, compassion, and clear-seeing.

The commitment is not primarily to shift, change, transform, or even heal, but to participate, to infuse the material with love. By doing this we return it to nature where it will be transmuted according to a timeline written in the stars.



My latest book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is now available 


My next two events: 

The Path is Everywhere: A Weekend Intensive, June 15-18 in Loveland, Colorado

The Great Befriending: A Five-Day Journey of Self-Love, Deep Rest, and Coming Alive (with Jeff Foster), September 21-26 in Loveland, Colorado 

Friday, June 8, 2018

The relational world


Wherever you are on your journey, you can ask a guide to bear witness as you move into unknown territory. At times, the guide will appear externally, at other times as a figure of the inner landscape. The interactional field is alive with meaning and intelligence, filled with resources for tending to the soul.

Find a therapist, lover, mentor, or friend. Shade under a tree, solace in the forest, an animal companion to stay near as you open. Sink into the earth, expand into the sky, receive the lunar blessing above. Call upon the protectors of inner and outer nature.

Allow the activated feelings and raw sensations to merge into these ones and enter into dialogue. Share the burning, the aliveness, and the longing within you. Offer a home in which the great metabolization by love may unfold.

Move toward the material as it surges for integration, practice intimacy without fusion. Closeness without enmeshment. Stay in the fire for a few seconds, then rest in the cooling rains of loving kindness. Return at a later moment, and then rest again.

Self-regulation, co-regulation, and other-regulation merge into one flow of curiosity, attunement, and compassion. It is unlikely we’ll ever fully understand or resolve the secrets of self and other, separation and union, yin and yang, sun and moon. But we can break open into the mystery together, as beginners, as amateurs, and as servants of that aliveness.



My latest book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is now available 


My next two events: 

The Path is Everywhere: A Weekend Intensive, June 15-18 in Loveland, Colorado

The Great Befriending: A Five-Day Journey of Self-Love, Deep Rest, and Coming Alive (with Jeff Foster), September 21-26 in Loveland, Colorado