Tuesday, January 21, 2020

Matt's online community now re-open to new members - Befriending Yourself

Dear friends, we've just re-opened membership to Befriending Yourself, the online community I am co-facilitating with my friend and spiritual teacher Jeff Foster. I know some of you are already part of the community, but for those who are not we'll be registering new members over the next couple of weeks, at which time we'll close until later in the year.

Each month, you'll receive videos from both Jeff and I (individually) where we speak about our own experience and that of working with others in the areas of healing, spiritual transformation, trauma, shadow, and what it means to truly "befriend" ourselves at the deepest levels.

In addition, we'll also meet twice live (currently on the 2nd and 4th Thursdays of each month at 11am PT/ 7pm London) where we'll meditate together, talk about this journey, and take questions from participants. If you're not able to join us at that time (many are not) we'll send out a replay of the video, downloadable audio, and also a written transcript of what was covered.

Finally, there is also a private Facebook group (optional) where members around the world share their experience and support one another.

I look forward to seeing you online, on retreat, or in whatever way life brings us together this year!


Sunday, January 19, 2020

A parting of the veil

Falling apart, holding it all together. Then falling apart, then coming back together. Cycles of clarity and confusion. Hopelessness and hope. Heartbreak and bliss. Knowing who we are and why we are here in one moment, deflated in the next as the way we thought it would all turn out is dissolved into the vast.

Inside the opposites it is alive and creative, but there is no solid ground from which to orient. No familiar reference point to look back to or rest in. Only tenderness. Open. Pregnant. Potential. Shaky. But what will be reborn from the ashes has not yet been given.

The tendency in these moments is to rush to rebirth in an urgent attempt to reassemble the known, where it is believed safety and aliveness is to be found. We can honor the adaptive function this belief has provided, while discovering for ourselves if this perceptual organization is able to meet the longing wired within the cells of this heart.

If we remain too identified with “falling apart,” we lose contact with that which was never unhealed, untransformed, and was never “together” to begin with. That innate radiance, the holiness of the breath, and the miracle of having an open sensitive nervous system. We disconnect with the magic of embodied presence, the wisdom of the mud and the earth, and the unshakable confidence in our true nature.

But if we remain too identified with “holding it all together,” we split off from our organic spontaneity, imaginative vulnerability, and the truth that love will take whatever form it must to reveal its qualities within us. Raw, achy, illuminating heartbreak may approach at any time, requesting safe passage inside. But it is through this broken aliveness that the poetry of our lives will flow.

Right in the middle of “falling apart” and “holding it together” is the secret place. Go there. It is here where light and dark are at play. For just a moment the veil parts. We peer behind the curtain and are astonished.

Photo by Sandro Porto

Falling in Love with Where You Are: Embracing the Joy and Heartbreak of Spiritual Awakening - our annual spring, five-day retreat - will take place April 22-27, 2020 at Sunrise Ranch in Loveland, Colorado, with myself and Jeff Foster. More information here

My online community, co-facilitated with Jeff Foster - Befriending Yourself: Discovering the Beauty in the Wounded and Broken Places - will be opening to new members later this month. Learn more here

My most recent book – The Path Is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You – is available in both paperback and Kindle editions. 

My next book, A Healing Space: Befriending Ourselves in Difficult Times, will be published by Sounds True in 2020. 

Tuesday, January 14, 2020

Spring retreat with Matt Licata & Jeff Foster

Dear friend,

I wanted to invite you to our annual spring retreat which will be held at Sunrise Ranch in Loveland, Colorado.

Falling in Love with Where You Are: Embracing the Joy and Heartbreak of Spiritual Awakening will take place from April 22-27 and will be facilitated by myself and my friend Jeff Foster.

Over these five days, we'll rest, meditate, open, laugh, cry, and turn together toward the Mystery.

Each day, Jeff and I will teach an individual session and then in the evenings we'll be together. There is the opportunity on the retreat to connect with like-minded friends and fellow travelers, in community, or to take the retreat more in silence, inwardly, quiet time with yourself (or a combination of both).

To learn more about the retreat or to register please visit the retreat page here. Seating is limited as well as space at the Ranch.

I hope to see you in April. But if you're not able to make it, I look forward to staying connected with you in ways seen and unseen.

With love,