Monday, December 12, 2016

The path is everywhere

Never, ever underestimate the power of love. Even one moment of empathic, attuned contact can change a person forever. Please don’t forget that for many, they have never actually known the erupting power of unconditional holding.

While you may be burning with the need to talk a struggling friend out of their experience – overflowing with solutions, techniques, and secret spiritual processes – stay attuned… for this may not be what they are longing for. Listen carefully, not just to the words, but to what is emanating out of the center of their heart.

Through your presence, your eyes, your touch, and your language, hold them so that they are reminded that surging vulnerability, heartbreak, confusion, and uncertainty is not evidence that something is wrong with them. But is a reminder of how alive they are, and the realities of being a sensitive, open, naked human being on a star where love is present.

One of the greatest gifts you can give to another is that of a regulated, calm, soothing nervous system. Provide a permission field where they can come to rest, exactly as they are, without needing to be something different in order for you to stay close.

Together, you will be midwives of integration, weaving a holding space for the unfolding of what is longing to be met within them. The path is everywhere.

Photo of the holding field of the Carina Nebula