Thursday, November 17, 2016

Only love in disguise

To engage the journey of the shadow, to travel along the descendent current with your heart open, is a radical act of kindness and courage. For when you re-embody to the unwanted, you remove the burden from others to metabolize it for you, which they cannot do. You are then free to love them, and to set them free. In the course of doing so, you set yourself free, as well as everything around you.

In this way, love is not something you urgently seek more of or even something you can “give” to another. Rather, you become the activity of love itself, in all of your interactions. The “other” is then no longer related to as an object that may or may not be able to meet your needs, or someone who can take care of your unlived life for you. They are a subject in their own right, seeking to make meaning of a crazy world, and, just like you, longing for aliveness and connection.

For many, the sequestered material of the soma and the psyche is most vividly displayed in close relationship, especially as we start to allow another to matter to us, and as we take up the risk that vulnerable, exposed, embodied intimacy will always require. As nearly all of our wounding arose within an interpersonal environment, it will be most powerfully activated – as well as untangled and transformed – within a relational field.

As the ancient beliefs, emotions, and feelings erupt out of the collective, they do so seeking sanctuary where they can unfold and illuminate. The invitation is to infuse this sacred material with the revolutionary energies of full-spectrum attunement. This holding is not passive but is alive and radical, and of the nature of pure creativity.

You need not abandon yourself any longer. You need not postpone participation here any longer, until a future moment when you are “healed,” “awakened,” less confused or are in possession of some new information.

With curiosity, with presence, and with kindness as your guide, you can discover that the shadow is in some paradoxical way only love in disguise, come to re-introduce you to the raw aliveness of the exposed heart, and to the field of warm, tender, open space that you are.

Art from Jung's Red Book