Saturday, October 22, 2016
An unshakeable faith in love's perfection
There is a longing wired into us to be seen and known by another, in the deepest and most profound way, exactly as we are.
As little ones we came to know ourselves through relationship and it is by way of a relational matrix that the wounds of love are often best metabolized and healed. When our subjective experience is empathically held, accurately attuned to, and provided sanctuary to flower, we come to a natural place of rest, harmony, and sacred homeostasis.
We are able to stop pretending for just a moment, to stop fighting so hard to be something other than what we are, and take a respite from the weary old exhausted struggle of maintaining that which is less than whole within us.
From this perspective, when we truly "love" another, we allow them to be what they are, at the most fundamental level. We do not need them to become something different in order for us to hold and love them. They are no longer a mere object in our own awareness, able to meet our "needs" or not, or there to take care of our emotional worlds for us, but actual subjects in their own right. Longing to make meaning of their experience, to be fully alive, to feel connected and to experience intimacy with the world around them. Just like us.
They are a miracle erupting in our very presence.
In addition to meeting another in this way, we can also hold ourselves in such an environment, where we allow ourselves to be what we are, offering full permission for our experience to reveal itself according to that unique blueprint which was crafted from beyond.
In so doing, we open a portal to the metabolization of self-experience by love, which very naturally releases tremendous freedom and energy for us to share our hearts with others, to engage in this world wisely, guided by a fiery kindness and wild compassion.
On some intuitive level, we know that the degree to which we allow and love ourselves is the degree to which we can allow and love others, even (and especially) those aspects which we find disturbing, "unspiritual," shameful, and otherwise less-than-ideal. We are willing to enter into the darkness, into the shadow and the nether worlds of the heart, the psyche, and the body to find love and all of the places where it is hiding/ shining.
Let us all take a pause, and from a place of love visualize a holding environment for ourselves, where we grant ourselves permission to make intimate and direct contact with our vulnerabilities, with our unguarded and unprotected hearts, with our unprocessed challenges from the past, and with our less-than-awakened thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
We can take just one moment and appreciate the complexity and counter-instinctual nature of awakening and healing and allow a deeply profound love and kindness to fill us, cell by cell.
Let us be willing to no longer abandon ourselves, exiting into our stories and unkind judgments, and inquire with love into the habitual belief that there is something fundamentally wrong with us.
Then, in an instant, we behold the flow of grace which pours through the eyes of everyone we meet, including that unknown precious one that we see when we look in the mirror. And then all that could possibly remain is an unshakeable faith in love’s perfection.