Monday, April 11, 2016

Invitations of integration

When you are triggered and your emotional world is on fire, behold the ancient pathways of fight and flight as they appear. In the face of a dysregulating narrative, anxious feelings, and activating sensations, memories of an earlier time are brought alive within you.

While it may seem otherwise, you no longer need to deny or flee from what is here, nor to urgently act it out in the hope of finding relief. In a moment of radical attunement and self-love, you can contain and hold what is appearing, and meet it with your presence. And in the thundering silence of the here and now, you can chart a new course.

Perhaps your immediate experience – the heartbreak, the joy, the loneliness, the shakiness – has not come in order to be ‘healed,’ but to be held. And that it was never in fact ‘unhealed,’ but has always been alive and whole.

It is an alchemical art to learn to rest your awareness inside the dysregulating thoughts, emotions, and sensations as they appear in moments of activation. And to discover that your freedom is not dependent upon their eradication or transformation. Rather, that the aliveness, the connection, and the intimacy that you long for will be found in the very center of that which is here now.

Slow way down and open into the life that is flowing through you. Place your awareness into the core of the tenderness and breathe with it. Oxygenate it not only with the clarity of an outside witness, but by way of intimacy, flooding it with the heart-qualities of kindness, compassion, and warmth.

No matter what is happening in your life right now, you can have the intention to provide a holding space for the unmet and abandoned children within you. These ones are arising not as some error or obstacle, or as evidence that something has gone wrong. But have come as invitations of integration, and as emissaries of wholeness.

Just as you are only ever longing for your own presence, these ones are only longing to be re-parented and allowed to return Home once again, as new forms of love and creativity within you.

Art by Lyse Marion