Saturday, May 17, 2014

Update on my meetings with Jeff Foster

Dear friends, thank you for the overwhelming interest in my meeting with Jeff Foster at the Star House in Boulder on August 3rd. Unfortunately, the event is now fully sold out, with a wait list. Due to the interest – and with many of you coming from out of state – we have added an additional meeting on Saturday, August 2nd, in downtown Boulder at the Solstice Center.

Learn more about Presence: The Ultimate Medicine. The lovely Solstice Center has room for only 60, so please register soon if you wish to attend, as this meeting will likely sell out sooner than later. 

Please note that due to this new gathering, Jeff and I will no longer be offering any private sessions during his visit in August. We'll be sure to let everyone know if any additional meetings will take place. 

We're both looking forward to seeing our friends and playing in the mountains together!... love, matt


How healing happens when "you" get out of the way – a day with Matt Licata and Jeff Foster – August 2nd – The Solstice Center – Boulder, CO – 10am to 5pm

When, just for a moment, we make the radical commitment of not trying to fix ourselves and each other, we may just discover that we were never broken, and that everything 'wrong' with us is absolutely 'right' from the perspective of the Universe. Our greatest pain may turn out to be our greatest teacher, our doubts our greatest gurus, our sorrow our most trustworthy friend.

There is such a tendency in our culture to avoid pain, sorrow, frustration and fear, distract ourselves from these very natural energies, label them as ‘wrong’ or 'bad' or ‘negative’ or 'unspiritual', meditate or medicate them away. Sometimes even trying to 'fix', 'accept' or 'heal' something within ourselves can be a subtle form of resistance!

Much of Western medicine is geared towards the removal of symptoms, the calming of disruption, the numbing of chaos and the journey towards ‘normality’. But sometimes we no longer have any interest in ‘returning to normal’! The ‘normal’ was the problem, not the solution! Sometimes powerful energies just want to move in us. Sometimes hearts just want to break wide open to make more room for love. Sometimes dreams need to die, plans need to crumble, doubt needs to rage. Sometimes all our ideas about life, 'spirituality' and even 'enlightenment' need to shatter. When we turn towards the present moment, however powerfully the storm rages, with a spirit of curiosity, gentleness and honesty, we may just discover unexpected gifts. When we get out of the way, perhaps true healing (the remembering of wholeness) can happen.

"Let us allow the other to matter so much that we cry deeply with them, we join them in their sadness, we get on their side, we do whatever we can so when they look into our eyes they feel us fully with them. Perhaps for the first time, they are actually seen by another human being, the way they organize their experience is held, and the way they make meaning of their life is contacted and shared. Let us see once and for all that sadness, grief, depression, and rage are not pathology, but path. Let us go directly into the darkness with each other, willing for our hearts to be shattered over and over and over again..."

- Matt Licata

Join writer/psychotherapist Matt Licata, and British author/teacher Jeff Foster for this special daylong gathering, to explore the intelligence, wisdom, and creativity buried in the darkness and the shadows of our experience, hidden in the so-called ‘negative’ and unwanted aspects of life.

This will be day of talks, taboo-breaking meditative dialogues and restful silences; a day of laughter, honesty and tears; a day of seeing our struggles, our fears, our sufferings in a fresh new light; a day of resting deeply, of letting go of the exhausting search for ‘something more’. A day of being present with whatever arises in ourselves and each other.

Whether you are struggling with your life and are looking for peace and space amidst the chaos, or you are a healer or therapist interested in meeting your clients in a new way, this meeting is for you.

"Just to sit without expectation with someone who is in grief or fear or loneliness or despair, without trying to fix them in any way, or manipulate their experience to match your idea of how it should be; just to listen, without playing the role of ‘expert’ or ‘enlightened guru’ or ‘the one who knows best’; just to be totally available to the one in front of you, and to walk with them through the fire, to hold their hand when they are broken - this is how we begin to heal each other through love. Beyond our roles, unprotected, unresolved, undefended, we truly meet."

- Jeff Foster