Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Holding yourself and others

Whether it’s in thirty years, late next week, or later this afternoon, the reality is that we will all die sooner than we’d like. And lurking behind all of our daily concerns, just underneath the anxiety of our immediate embodied experience, hidden in the shadows of our uncompleted projects is this most alive and life-changing reality that we can never fully turn away from. For many are haunted each day by the ghost of their unlived lives.

Knowing that this life is a gift and that you will be returned to love soon, how will you live in this day? Will you hold your experience and others’? Will you provide an intimate, spacious holding environment, a container of love in which all of you is held, embraced, and allowed to unfold and be illuminated? Will you turn toward all of you, and open wide to the possibility that even your scariest places are intelligent and bursting with creativity? Will you touch your own sadness, another’s grief, a friend’s fear, your own loneliness, a child’s despair?

In those precious last moments of life, it is very unlikely you’ll wonder: “I think I risked too much, I should have played it safer.” You may not find yourself so concerned about whether you completed some mythical spiritual journey or whether you were able to uphold some particular image of yourself as a spiritual person, able to construct all the right “high” states of consciousness.

Friends, there will be only one real question that you will be asking as you prepare to leave this sacred human world: “How well did I love in this life?” “How much did I risk to know love?” "How much did I open my heart to myself and others?” “How kind was I to my own and others’ lived experience?”

How deeply did I hold myself and others?

Let us take pause today and go ahead and explore this, before it is too late.