For all of us, there are times when that energetic quality of anger explodes throughout our bodies, our minds, our hearts, and it can be so destructive, especially when we act it out and say things or act in ways that lead to great suffering for ourselves and others. It is of course very natural to want to get rid of it, change it, spiritualize or meditate or pray it away. But the one thing that I’ve seen about anger over the many years in speaking with people about it is that it is most often a cover for deep hurt, grief, shame, and sadness. In many ways (not always), anger is a very surface-level experience for people, a defensive reaction to protect ourselves from deep unmetabolized hurt. It is rather easy for most to feel angry, but very difficult to embrace a deep sense of hurt or shame.
When we can somehow find a way to turn directly into our emotions, into our feelings, a tremendous freedom is often waiting for us. When we can stay at the sensation level of our experience, we may become bewildered as we are no longer able to find a “problem” there. Our feelings and emotions are not what we think they are; they are not nearly as solid, continuous, and endearing as they appear. Like all form, they are made of light and, ultimately, of love. They are our long-lost friends, just waiting for us to take a moment out of our busy lives to touch them. Once they are seen, heard, validated, held, they are then free to share their gifts with us, and to serve the purpose for which they came… to be radical vehicles for our own freedom and luminous pathways through which love can express itself in our world.