Thursday, September 4, 2014

The fear of being loved



The fear of being abandoned. The terror of being lonely forever. The anxiety of being utterly dependent upon another. The panic of unbearable vulnerability, nakedness, and pure exposure. The despair of not fully being seen by others and by this world. The dread of the looming death of yourself and everyone around you.

These are the great fears that come as you wake, as you fall asleep, and as you wander through this life.

But perhaps the greatest fear of all is the fear of being loved.

We don’t really see it this way, though. For when you are truly loved, when you are entirely seen, when you are fully held, it is the end of your world as you know it. You will never be the same. You will never again be able to pretend that you are other than radiant and whole as you are.

Inside the luminous mandala of natural perfection – which is your life right now, exactly as it is – you must bid farewell forever to the dream of the unworthy one and the unloved one. And that is terrifying.

Life is always seeing you in this way. Look into the mirror of the heart and you will see.