Tuesday, November 19, 2013

New "A Healing Space" facebook group

Dear friends, I want to let you know of a new facebook group which has been created by Molly Wavra, to explore in a more intimate setting my writings and the depths of your own personal lived experience. In order to provide a safe space and home for your own vulnerability and deepest longings, the group will not be “open,” at least for now. Additionally, the group will be kept “secret,” meaning only other members of the group will be able to view your posts and comments; they will not appear in any public area of facebook, even via the feeds of your friends. If you are interested in joining, please visit the group's home page

I will continue writing and dialoguing here on my personal page, primarily, but will also stop by and participate in the group from time to time. In speaking with Molly, the vision for this new group is to encourage and support a more intimate and personal dialogue and conversation about the unfolding of your own heart and experience. We would love to have those of you join the group who feel called to go deeper with this work and to share your experience with your fellow travelers.

Here is the official description of the group, posted at the group’s home page:

The purpose of this group is to provide a warm, loving, and provocative space for the mysteries of your heart to unfold. You are encouraged to share the depth of your experience here in all its glory – the painful, the confusing, and the joyous – and to offer yourself to the endless and infinite dimension of love that is unfolding within you right now.

This community is an exploration of the writings of Matt Licata, however it functions independently and is not, in any way, an official extension of Matt's professional work as a therapist or author. Molly Wavra, with Matt's permission and blessing, is the admin for this group but it is always recognized that these words and these concepts are only fingers pointing at the moon which will only ever be revealed inside your own heart. We hope this forum becomes a place that you can bring all of yourself, where you can be vulnerable, take a risk, and share yourself with your fellow travelers. To this end, the group is set up as 'secret' only to provide a sacred container for this journey, exclusivity is not the goal.

In order to maintain the intention of safety, authenticity and openness, it is asked that all member respect each other's comfort and vulnerability. While open and raw sharing is encouraged, this is not the place for unsolicited advice, criticism, romantic/sexual overtures, ideological righteousness or judgment, etc. Additionally, marketing of products/services/events is strongly discouraged and will be deleted by the admin.


My welcome letter to the group on our first night together:

Friends, love is alive! 
I’m sitting outside looking up at the moon and in awe of your heart and commitment to this endless journey of polishing the heart. In Sufism, they speak of the importance of the “friend,” or what I also refer to as the beloved – that aspect of the phenomenal or unseen world that appears at just the right time, in just the right way, to reveal to you the essence of the inside of your own heart. 

You have each appeared here, reflecting the friend within one another. 

I’d like to thank all of you – and to thank my special friend Molly – for being here and for caring so much about this world and about your own unfolding. This work is not easy and requires that you be willing to enter deeply into your own vulnerability, stay embodied, and to create a home for even that which is unwanted within you. You are being asked to move out of the known and into the unknown now – which is simultaneously exhilarating and terrifying. But please know there is support for you, from the external and from the unseen worlds, that will always be there to meet you, but in ways you may never understand. 

This journey requires the most radical trust in the validity of your own direct experience, knowing that whatever arises is path, not pathology, and has been sent by the beloved one as a portal through which to take you home. And above all, it requires an absolute and unconditional commitment to kindness, that whatever arises in your experience you will meet with kindness and holding. This work is deeply counter-instinctual and requires everything you have, and even more. But offers fruits beyond this world. 

I really wish you all the best and invite you now to go into your burning and your longing, for it is your guide home. See now that everything around you, everyone in your life, and everything that has ever happened to you has led up to this moment. Your guides are all around you – your sadness, your sorrow, your despair, your joy, your bliss, your utter heartbreak. Turn toward these friends now, and behold their blessing. All my love…


1 comment:

  1. The mystics of the Middle East have long intuited that the indescribable unitary beingness from which the entire universe arose, exploded into existence out of a deep and desperate desire and longing for relationship. Nothing comes from nothing. Indeed, they say in varying ways, we are the result of an immeasurably large explosion of love. In truth, we are made from a love which continues to flow throughout the whole of creation, continuously creating and continually sustaining all that has been created. It is this which gives us life and our own immense desire to experience love.

    We often discover this need through our wounds. We try to avoid them, using many means in the attempt to bypass our suffering. Many indeed use spirituality as the opiate of the masses. But a cut in our finger proves itself to be the very place where our flesh is growing the fastest. What if a wound in our mind or in our heart might also be the very locus of almost incredible possible growth?

    What if the secret is not in avoidance, but in allowing ourselves to receive the love that sustains the universe, and to receive it into the very place of our woundedness? What if the secret of all interpersonal therapy is being held in the radiant presence of a person who has discovered and allowed this in their own lives. What if it is completed when that person helps you to find this radiance of love for yourself?

    This can happen in innumerable ways. What if when any awakened person truly sees you, you have the possibility of discovering the flow of God's love into your own being. What if that is the secret of all mentorship, no matter what the field. Apprenticeship. Master Classes. Discipleship.

    One of the great Canadian Jungian Analysts had a near death experience in India. Day after day as she sat recovering on a bench in her hotel lobby, a very large Hindu woman came and sat beside her . The woman would sidle over so their bodies touched. Our hero would sidle away, until she was blocked by the arm rest at the end of the bench. She would be followed until their bodies still touched and there was no escape. She learned to accept this. Finally, after many days, a Hindu man came up to her as she sat on the bench. He introduced himself and told her his wife had sent him to speak to her. "My wife," he said, "asked me to tell you that she believes you have recovered enough that you no longer need her love."

    So a big question. Where are you exposed to this love on your own unique path through the universe? Who and what in your life inspires you at the very core? Do you let them sidle up to you and hold you in the radiance of their presence?

    And a second question. Who do you sidle up to and hold in whatever has developed of the radiance of your presence, until they have healed enough not to need you?

    In the Jewish and Christian traditions this is referred to as "The Summary of the Law". It is to love God with everything that is in us, and to love our neighbors as ourselves. This is not loving God on one hand and loving our neighbors on the other hand. It is loving both at the same time and in the same place. It is letting our heart be the ballroom in which our neighbor can meet God and begin the process of learning to dance with the beloved.